Your beauty is intimidating
Today’s post is inspired by a story about Sandro Boticelli, a true superstar of the Renaissance.
There are two schools of thought around the question of whether men are intimidated by women that they are extremely attracted to.
” You search your brain for some reason as to why this fool isn’t falling over himself for your incredible friend and come up with only one plausible answer. I see my intimidating friends as strong, assertive women.
These are things that I admire and wish I saw in myself. But sometimes I wonder if my quippy response is correct; is it really intimidation that keeps the men from my fabulous friends?
The other view is that men will actually avoid the object of their longing if they perceive that she is unattainable.
When you are out on a date, a man may be intimidated if he suddenly becomes quiet early in the conversation.In New York, I’d been feisty and outspoken, confident in my smarts and my Irish looks.When I got to LA I realized right away that things were not going to go so well for me there.These examples of a man suddenly becoming inhibited can signal that he is feeling less powerful, say psychologist Dacher Keltner and colleagues in an article published in the journal “Psychological Review” in April 2003.A guy who is intimidated by a woman’s beauty may be nervous in her presence.